作  者: sspanzer
标  题: [转载] 原来这么在乎南大
时  间: Mon Nov 24 00:58:22 2008
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【 以下文字转载自 NJUExpress 讨论区 】
【 原文由 venividivici 所发表 】


当年参加南大的自主招生，考得很郁闷，当我走出南大那座大门的时候，我恨恨地回望了一眼，心里默念：“它不要我，我也不再跨进这里。”

后来，阴错阳差地考进了南大，阴错阳差地进了那个系。大一的时候，感觉南大比起中学来真是沉闷，有点怀疑：“四年之后，我是否会留恋这里？”

再后来，在这里经历了好多挥之不去的遗憾和叹息，发现自己的命运已经和南大紧紧地联系在了一起。就这样毕业了，离开了南大，离开了南京。有时我在想：“我怀念这里的每个人、每件事，但是，也许我并不怀念那个我为之倾注感情却依然沉闷如昨的集体，也许
我并不怀念那个我走在路上叹息多于微笑的喧嚣校园……”

离开了南大和南京，来到了这里，和身边的同学说起南大来总是有一种自豪，虽然一次次遇到把南大和南开混为一谈的同学。甚至在有人和我说“晚上娱乐只有看电视”的时候，我可以很自豪的说：“我们有百合。”

今天，和过去的朋友聊起南大的现在。

现在，我发现我这么在乎南大。
--
De forti dulcedo

“有时候，我们常常将自己的需要放在一边，转去考虑他人的需要，这时出现的典型观念是：
我必须把他人放在首位。
将自己的需要放在他人需要之前是自私的。
我必须像别人要求我的那样生活。
自我牺牲是好的。
我需要被他人需要。
如果我付出很多，他人同样也会回报我。
这里，付出与得到应当是平衡的。如果我们偏向一方（比如，感到自己付出太多得到太少），我们就会感到不舒服。如果我们诚实面对自己，我们就会时常关心他人，以使自己感到更舒服：‘我是好人，因为我关心别人。’只要我们诚实，就会意识到，我们关心他人是为了使自己感觉更好，或者为了更公平。如果我们自欺：‘我关心他人动机纯正，没有任何附加条件。’那么当别人没有回报时，我们就会感到沮丧。
有时，为了使自我感觉更好，我们尽力把自己扮演成一个关心他人的角色，但后来，我们发现自己被他人的需要所湮灭，于是我们疯狂地想摆脱肩上的重负。但如果你落入了自我牺牲的陷阱，你就不会认为这种逃脱的需要是为了退步抽身、更好地照顾自己，而变成了内疚等不良情绪的根源。”
——R749.4 H1   Chap.3 P47

SOCIALISM
 
You have 2 cows.
 
You give one to your neighbour.
 
 
COMMUNISM
 
You have 2 cows but
 
The State takes both and gives you some milk.
 
 
FASCISM
 
You have 2 cows.
 
The State takes both and sells you some milk.
 
 
NAZISM
 
You have 2 cows.
 
The State takes both and shoots you.
 
 
BUREAUCRATISM
 
You have 2 cows.
 
The State takes both, shoots one, milks the other, and then throws the milk away...
 
 
TRADITIONAL CAPITALISM
 
You have 2 cows.
 
You sell one and buy a bull.
 
Your herd multiplies, and the economy grows.
 
You sell them and retire on the income.
 
 
AN AMERICAN CORPORATION
 
You have 2 cows.
 
You sell one, and force the other to produce the milk of four cows.
 
Later, you hire a consultant to analyse why the cow has dropped dead.
 
 
ENRON VENTURE CAPITALISM
 
You have 2 cows. You sell 3 of them to your publicly listed company, using letters of credit opened by your brother-in-law at the bank,then you execute a debt/equity swap with an associated general offer so that you get all 4 cows back, with a tax exemption for 5 cows.
 
The milk rights of the 6 cows are transferred via an intermediary to a Cayman Island Company secretly owned by the majority shareholder who sells the rights to all 7 cows back to your listed company.
 
The annual report says the company owns 8 cows, with an option on 1 more.
 
You sell 1 cow to buy a new president of the United States , leaving you with 9 cows.
 
No balance sheet is provided with the release.
 
The public then buys your bull.
 
 
A FRENCH CORPORATION
 
You have 2 cows.
 
You go on strike, organize a riot, and block the roads, because you want three cows.
 
A JAPANESE CORPORATION
 
You have 2 cows.
 
You redesign them so they are one-tenth the size of an ordinary cow and produce twenty times the milk.
 
You then create a clever cow cartoon image called 'Cowkimon' and market it worldwide.
 
 
A GERMAN CORPORATION
 
You have 2 cows.
 
You re-engineer them so they live for 100 years, eat once a month, and milk themselves.
 
 
AN ITALIAN CORPORATION
 
You have 2 cows, but you don't know where they are.
 
You decide to have lunch.
 
 
A RUSSIAN CORPORATION
 
You have 2 cows.
 
You count them and learn you have 5 cows.
 
You count them again and learn you have 42 cows.
 
You count them again and learn you have 2 cows.
 
You stop counting cows and open another bottle of Vodka.
 
 
A SWISS CORPORATION
 
You have 5000 cows. None of them belong to you.
 
You charge the owners for storing them.
 
 
A CHINESE CORPORATION
 
You have 2 cows.
 
You have 300 people milking them.
 
You claim that you have full employment, and high bovine productivity.
 
You arrest the newsman who reported the real situation.
 
 
AN INDIAN CORPORATION
 
You have 2 cows.
 
You worship them.
 
 
A BRITISH CORPORATION
 
You have 2 cows.
 
Both are mad.
 
 
AN IRAQI CORPORATION
 
Everyone thinks you have lots of cows.
 
You tell them that you have none.
 
No-one believes you, so they bomb the **** out of you and invade your country.
 
You still have no cows, but at least now you are part of a Democracy....
 
 
AN AUSTRALIAN CORPORATION
 
You have 2 cows.
 
Business seems pretty good. 
 
You close the office and go for a few beers to celebrate. 
  
 
A NEW ZEALAND CORPORATION
 
You have 2 cows.
 
The one on the left looks kinda cute.